Reasons Guys Make it Hard to Meet a Girl

Two and a half years ago, I made one of the biggest decisions of my life. I decided that I was fed up with the way my social and love lives were going, and by that I mean that they were going nowhere, and hadn’t for some time. It was time to change that. Excitement rushed through my body as I imagined myself as the life of the party, surrounded by beautiful women.

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The rush swiftly dwindled as I realized something…

I have no idea where to begin.

Well, friend, I’m going to tell you the lessons I learned while trying to meet a girl. I’m going to talk about many of the reasons why men have issues being social and talking to women, and where to begin to get over them.

The Nice Guy

“They’re too easy to get.”

“There’s no challenge.”

“They’re too boring.”

“They’re pushovers.”

“There’s no excitement.”

It’s no wonder when they sit at home looking like this half the time.

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That’s Just a taste of the plethora of reasons why women never go for The Nice Guy. What classifies you as The Nice Guy? Let’s begin…

1) Confidence

I’m starting with confidence because I feel that all issues with social and sexual inadequacies are rooted in confidence…

Your confidence shows in everything you do. Body language, facial expressions, volume of voice, pace of speech, and even in the way you stand. A confident man holds himself with pride. His stance is more erect (no giggling) and more direct. His movements will generally be slower and intentional. Nervous fidgeting and the passive habit of moving out of everyone’s way are non-existent. A confident man speaks with authority, and doesn’t feel the need to rush through what he’s trying to say in fear that the person(s) he’s talking to will lose interest and turn their attention elsewhere. A confident man’s presence is noticed and respected. Confidence doesn’t come easy, however…

2) Embracing your Masculinity

We’re not going to start clubbing women over the head with sticks to meet them, nor are we going to resort to violence every time we need to resolve conflict. It’s time to simply be men. Women think they want a soft, sensitive man. But, the reality is that women want a real man. A man who has desires and pursues them, a man who can protect them in times of danger, a man who can provide a comfortable way of life. Stop putting everyone before yourself. Don’t be afraid to voice your opinion or preference on a subject. Don’t be afraid that your decision on what to do will upset/bore her. Don’t be afraid to approach a woman you find attractive. Don’t be afraid to express that attraction (in socially acceptable ways, of course.)

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3) Improving Self-Image

If you don’t like yourself, then other people (especially women) won’t like you. What you need to do is upgrade yourself to something you can be proud of.

First stop: hygiene. Take showers. Clean up/groom that facial hair. Your smile will be one of the first things girls you want to meet see…so…BRUSH YOUR TEETH (and always have gum or breath-mints handy.)  Deodorize and don’t be afraid to use a bit of cologne. Don’t forget those fingernails…long nails and dirt under them are disgusting. All it takes to feel better about yourself (and in turn improve how people perceive you) is a little investment to your appearance. Now, that the package is ready to sell, it’s time to market it!

Damn right Mr clean is a badass

4) Stop Fearing Rejection

You’re out at a local bar. While walking in on your way to the bar, you spot a super cute girl also on her way to the bar. You end up standing next to each other, waiting to order a drink! It’s fate! But wait…what if she ignores you when you open her. What if she laughs at my attempt to talk to her? What if she interrupts with some rude comment and turns away? What if she has a boyfriend?!?

Stop worrying about what MIGHT happen and just find out what WILL happen.

I’m not going to pretend that you’ll never be rejected if you just try. Rejection happens, deal with it. It’s not as bad as you really think! All you’re doing is engaging in friendly conversation with someone or a group of people…there’s nothing wrong with that. The only way you’re really going to get over your fear of this is to just go out and do it…over and over…until you see for yourself that it’s nothing. Simple as that.

Sooo you got rejected, but on the bright side that thing will burn like crazy!

5) Don’t put women on a pedestal

Let’s go back to the previous scenario in your local bar. That cute girl caught your eye and now her beauty is all you can think of. “There’s no way a girl that hot would go for a guy like me” you think to yourself. Guess what? In your mind, she is a perfect, untouchable creature that’s way out of your league. Doing so makes approaching and talking to her ten times more difficult than it should be. The fact of the matter is that you know nothing about her. Well, she’s not perfect. She has flaws and insecurities just like the rest of us. When you’re going in to open this beauty, you need to have the mentality that YOU are the prize…not her.

You know your worth. You know you’re a man of high value. It’s time for her to prove her worth TO you, instead of you doing that for her. Once you knock her off the pedestal and put her on your level, approach anxiety should drift off in to the sunset.

Hopefully, you have a good idea where to start working on yourself to get you where you want to be, in life and love. When you’re a confident man, people want to hang around you. When you’re a masculine man, women flock to you. When you take care of yourself, women find themselves attracted to you. When you’re not afraid to approach a woman and you don’t hold her to high expectations based solely on her looks, you’re opportunity to get this girl will be right in your hands. In a nutshell, it all starts with you. Start there, and everything else will fall in to place.

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How to find out if a woman is mature or superficial

“Maturity and ‘True’ Value: A Fascinating Correlation”

By: Prodigy from the Dallas Lair

Chart Interpretation and Assumptions:

• Y-Axis is the woman’s age.
• X-Axis is the importance of a man’s superficial value to a woman, with 10 being lowest.
• There is an inverse relation. The older a woman gets, the less weight there is on superficial qualities.
• As women age, they also mature.
• Green is good, red is bad.

Now I do understand that the chart does not apply to every man as some men prefer women 45+, but this is targeted to the average PUA, which I believe is male, between the ages of 21 – 35.

Categories:

Category 1 – This is the category of women most desirable! Women that are young and beautiful, but put a heavy emphasis on your true value. Example: not sure, I haven’t found her yet!

Category 2 – Consists of young, attractive women that are heavily influenced by superficial value. Example: the typical uptown girl, downtown club rat or sorority girl

Category 3 – The third most desirable category of women. Women, who are older, yet do not put all interest in superficial value, but rather, on a man’s true value. Example:

Category 4 – This category of women is the least attractive. Generally speaking, older women who still put too much emphasis on superficial qualities. Example: 35 year olds still going to downtown Lounges.

There may be some debate as to whether some men would rather marry a woman in category 2 or 3; it is all dependent upon what you want.

Intro:

Value. What is it? More importantly, which would you rather have…superficial value or true value? The answer may be how mature (or old) your target is!!

Now, have you ever noticed that high school girls are so image conscious? That they would only date guys that are “cool?” Like the captain of the football team, president of the student body or one of the popular kids?

Or how about when you were (or are) in college and the hot girls only typically date/fuck guys from the coolest fraternity? Did you ever notice that these guys had no true value, BUT, were able to shag attractive women on a regular basis? I refuse to believe that they were all MPUA’s….

Compare that with women of more maturity. Ever seen a super hot 27 years old with a man who is lacking in the looks or coolness department? Ever wonder why that is…?

Thesis Statement:

As women age and mature, they put less importance on a man’s superficial value. A man’s true value carries more weight in the selection process for mature women.

Perspective:

In the world of investments, a share of a company is commonly traded for a stated price, or market value. This may or may not be the actual worth of the company, also known as the intrinsic value. One investment strategy is to determine the disparity between the market value and intrinsic value of the company and then apply the appropriate methodology (short or long) to be most profitable.

The point I am trying to make is that there are various types of value. For the sake of this argument, I categorize them as a perceived value (superficial value) and an actual value (true value). Some may argue that perceived value is actual value, but is it really? I believe it is NOT, but that’s a discussion for another time.

A person’s perceived value is often times based on superficial qualities; for example: looks, style and popularity. So when I say superficial value, I am referring to the superficial qualities that communicate value (to others).

Actual value, or true value, is value that encompasses all of your qualities, superficial or not. For example: intelligence, loyalty, personality, knowledge and being a protector of loved ones.

As I continued to date, I have reflected on my past and current LTR’s. What I have noticed is that as women mature, they are less focused on the superficial values, or what made men attractive to them. As my thesis states, I firmly believe that the maturity level of a woman greatly affects her decision of whether you’re attractive or not. There is no explicit, scientific proof to supplement this theory, only examples.

I challenge you to reflect on your past experiences. Look at your social environment. You will clearly notice that a large number of mature women (not necessarily old) are with men who have little superficial value; they will put less emphasis on these qualities. She doesn’t care if you have a letterman jacket.

Let’s dissect an example from two different perspectives.

Dating a quarterback, a young girl’s point of view: In this scenario, the young girl finds the quarterback attractive because he’s cool. Plain and simple. He’s the man, the big man on campus. Regardless of his other qualities, she would date him because he’s the quarterback. His superficial values heavily influence her decision. His superficial value (in this case, also social value) raises her value.

Dating the Chief of Police, a woman’s point of view: she couldn’t care less if he is the Chief of Police department. What make him attractive are the other qualities that communicate value (presuming he has a few). Intelligence, being a leader of men, protector of loved ones, etc. She will not date him solely based on the fact that he is the Chief of Police. Other qualities come into play in her decision making process of choosing this man as her mate.

Generally speaking, mature women are less focused on superficial value, but rather, the qualities that we in the community equate to being a man of high value (being a leader, protector and pre-selection) plays a primary role in her selection criteria.

I understand that this is a broad generalization, but I truly believe that it holds true in many situations; just reflect and compare the times when you were in high school and now, your adult life.

Maturation is based upon each specific person; it is a factor of psychology and every woman is unique, different. A woman’s psychology is significantly influenced by culture, upbringing and surroundings. But generally speaking, there is a natural maturation cycle.

A – Growth Phase. This is primarily when a female is in late childhood and teenage years and haven’t started maturing very much. Age range: 15 – 24.

B – Rapid Growth: This phase of a woman’s life is when a female is in her young adulthood and matures at an accelerated rate. The growth in maturity is usually related to accomplished (or failed) life milestones. For example: graduating college, obtaining a job in her career field and possibly a long term relationship or young marriage. Age range is 25 – 34.

C – Slow Maturation/Plateau: This phase of a woman’s life is when she has matured greatly, yet is still maturing, at a much slower rate. She has established a career and possibly in a marriage. She has learned many valuable life lessons in Phase B. Age range is 35 – 59.

D – Plateau/Decline: At this point in a woman’s life, she is on the decline and is no longer maturing, of if she is, at a minimal rate. Age range is 60+.

Conclusion:

As women mature, there is a shift in priorities and what they view as important. As such, the characteristics you possess as a man are viewed differently, depending on the various stages of a woman’s life.

If you are a man with high superficial value, you should strive to possess qualities to build your true value. True value is attractive to immature AND mature women. I believe that superficial value fades over time and one should focus on being a true man of value rather than relying on superficial qualities. Women like men with substance.

If you are a man with low superficial value, your targets should not be from Categories 2 or 4, as there is a stronger emphasis on superficial value. You essentially have two options: create superficial value by focusing on social game and building a social circle or, pursue women with a higher level of maturity.

Which option you choose is entirely up to you and what are goals are.

If you are a man with no value, then there is always the Dallaslair.com. 

By: Prodigy

Body Language Signs of Attraction

Body Language signs of attraction: A primer

The jury has come back with a verdict, and the evidence is solid. The majority of human communication is either physical, or tonal, to paraphrase the landmark Mehrabian study. To quote the great movie Hitch “60% of all human communication is nonverbal, body language; 30% is your tone, so that means 90% of what you’re saying ain’t coming out of your mouth.” If you haven’t seen the movie: do so asap. The first 15 minutes are pure brilliance. Many guys, go through life aware that there is something subtle going on, and they may be missing it. No longer! Today we are going to walk you through a basic guide to this art that is body language signs of attraction.

Basic Principles to body language signs of attraction:

Proximity:  A person’s distance from you often indicates the relative interest or comfort level in the interaction and can be some body language signs of attraction. This does vary culturally, with middle eastern, and Latin cultures being closer, and northern European being generally more distant. Also, guys listen up on this one. If a girl goes out of her way to be near you repeatedly, or moves closer for no real reason, or stands near you facing slightly away, she may very well be telling you that your approach is welcome.

Leaning:  If you’re having a conversation, and you’re leaning forward towards the other person, it signals a high interest in the interaction. If you or the other party leans back, either in a chair or standing, it can signal discomfort in the interaction. Guys take note, too much leaning in, or “pecking” while talking to a woman you just met, may signal neediness, or overeagerness. Don’t fall prey to this one, and stand up straight if you want to master body language signs of attraction.

Eye contact:  Strong contact can definitely be a source of that “spark” we all search for:  Repeated eye contact is a very good thing, and often is a body language signs of attraction, and an invitation to approach. If a person breaks eye contact away on a level plane, to the left or right, it probably is not an approach invitation. If a woman breaks eye contact, down and at an angle, she very well may be attracted.

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Angle:  Orienting, and angling your body towards someone is a sign of comfort, and interest. Angling, crossing of legs away, may signal discomfort and is a negative body language signs of attraction.

Body language signs of attraction legs crossed

Touching:  Touching is a good thing, and signals a higher amount of attraction or comfort. To once again quote Hitch…”in cause you didn’t go to high school, (playful) hitting is a good thing. Guys, if you make a wisecrack, and she lightly punches you in the arm, it’s likely your on the right track and you are probably beginning to show the right body language signs of attraction.

Mirroring:  This occurs when both parties, voice tone and pace, leaning, angling, touching and proximity sync with one another. This creates strong rapport between the interacting parties, and has a strong “me too” effect which is a useful body language sign of attraction to use to your advantage.

body language signs Mirroring